Husband Chasing 101: Class is in session

I’ve always wanted to be loved. For someone to love me. For someone to want to snuggle with me, tell me how beautiful I am, and share hopes, dreams, life, and children with someone.

I wanted what I felt like my parents had. Good times, tough times, but always together times.

Someone to pray with me, to pray for me, to be a lover, a leader, a lord (in the Abrahamic sense). I wanted a provider, a comedian, a comforter, a tender hearted, beast of a man who would call me babe and “Queen”.

Someone who was comfortable around my close and very energetic family and didn’t mind joining in on the fun.

Someone who’s family would be just as close as mine. Who would be completely smitten with me and I with him.

Instead of focusing on myself and how to draw nearer to God to make sure that I was ready to receive such a devoted man. I focused on getting out there and “getting my man”. Because of course, the rest of those things would come in due time.


First you have to have a man, right? No chicken without the egg…or is the other way around?

That’s my MO. I like to skip steps. Find the most “efficient way” to resolve something. Locate the shortcut. Skirt around and flirt around with greatness but fall short of being amazing by my own standards.

So why not do the same in the romance department?

Steps to chasing a husband:
1. Nab ’em
2. Go on a date
3. Dim your light
Agree with him
Smile and nod
Hide your flaws and
Become the best rainbow chameleon power ranger that you can possibly be. Be exactly what he needs when he needs it.
4. Don’t nag,
5. Agree to his terms
6. Forget your own terms
7. Get the ring
8. Stay engaged…remember you’re a champion chameleon power ranger so whatever he needs you to be to get him to say, “I do” you be that!!!!

Now as I write this don’t think I am sitting smug. Happy that I’ve imparted the worlds most hidden secret to “nabbing your man” in 8 simple steps.

Without God getting the glory for this testimony, if I would’ve kept this to myself, there would be a deep sense of embarrassment. Shame even, that I could muster the courage to live my life completely devoid of common sense and even more so devoid  God’s guidance.

To be so manipulative to think that I could mold my husband into what and who I wanted him to be.

To take only the parts that I loved about him and to attempt to change via the guise of “humble submission” the parts that I didn’t.

Praise God that He isn’t in the condemning business!

I had to ask for God to forgive me.

For putting him on the back burner.

For putting my desire to be loved by a man before my desire and acceptance of the love that God so freely gives.

I had done wrong.  Don’t let the temptation of the world, your “biological clock”, or ANYTHING apart from God to steer you into a “shortcut.” I share this as a cautionary tail of disobedience and impatience.

Even in my disobedience, God continued to bless me as I was, and still am in His plan and not my own.


“Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD”

Psalms 27:14

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD”

Proverbs 18:22

“For He has satisfied the thirsty soul, and the hungry soul He has filled with what is good”

Psalms 107:9

#Satisfaction #InChristAlone #HeThatFindsAWife  #NotSheThatFindsAHusband #WaitForIt #HashtagMinistry #PraiseGod #TeamJesus

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